Saturday, August 11, 2007

Sexuality and Life - Dr. Frederick Lenz, Rama


"Sex is life: The act of creation in pleasure, the loss of oneself in another, the coming together of opposites in a temporary union of yin and yang, that creates something other than either. What is Life if not this?

You'll notice all around the Hindu temples couples, statues and drawings, in various erotic forms of love-making. This used to give the British a lot of trouble because they were kind of white and uptight. It didn't quite fit. How could a temple of God be covered with pictures of people, in their term, fornicating?

How could sexuality be anything but God? It's the creation of life. Life is experiencing itself in endless forms.

The gopis seek Krishna, another part of themselves that create ecstasy. The man seeks the woman, the woman seeks the man. The Tantric Buddhist seeks annihilation of the ego.

Sexuality is the primary focus of our culture, and almost no one has come to resolve it.

This culture seems to be so obsessed with sexuality, the good and the bad of it. Every advertisement, every preacher, everybody's concerned, one way or the other about sexuality.

I’ve never seen a society that thinks about sex so much and gets so little!

Most people are terribly afraid of their own sexuality, and one has to respect another person's sadhana, another person's path.

Don't focus so much on your relationships. Have fun with them. Or if you don't have them, you don't want them, have fun with that.

Men are terrified of their sexuality. They're all afraid of impotence.

Women are terrified of their sexuality because they’ve got so much of it, and we live in a society that says they don't.

They say Casanova made love to over 10,000 women. Do you think it changed him? It probably aged him a little bit. But I doubt that it changed him. If it had changed him, he would have stopped somewhere along the line and done something a little different.

Sex does drain a certain amount of your occult energy. But that really has nothing to do with enlightenment.

If you are interested in developing some of the higher range occult powers, then I would suggest you not engage in sex too frequently.

Love is not reasonable. If we could assign it to the reasonable world, it would not be useful.

Love is the chariot of emotion which takes us to our beloved. When we love we see beyond the prism of illusion.

When we love others we see our oneness with others.

The people that hurt you are the ones you love because you are the most open to them.

Tragedy is the violation of love.

People you are emotionally open to can drain your power level or raise it tremendously, depending on what their intentions are.

I love so and so, how can I let go of them? You don't have to. You do whatever you chose. What you think, you become. Your thoughts are strongly affected by those you are emotionally open to.

People we are emotionally open to and close to affect us more than most people realize. If you are emotionally open to people, you will find yourself experiencing the mindset of others.

The problem with love is attachment; love makes you dependent. Unattached love - you love for the hell of it.

Love has very little to do with a person. It comes from us. You can love a surprisingly great number of people. To love is to be balanced, to extend one's self beyond the sense of self.

The purpose of life is to love, not necessarily to be loved.

There is wisdom to loving. One must just love more deeply and without the sense of what you love being your personal possession.

Love is something that comes to us in life. Quietly, it overwhelms us. It is something that you cultivate. You make it happen.

Love is something that we don't control. We have to be ourselves. You can be sexual, nonsexual, asexual, bisexual, or trisexual and it really doesn't have a lot to do with enlightenment.

A number of Guru's feel that there is something wrong or sick about being gay. I think it really doesn't matter what your sexual preference is; what matters is the quality of your love.

In terms of spiritual development, it's not a big deal whether you have sex or not, the question is more of who you have sex with and what their energy is doing to you.

If you are having sex with someone who is not on the same frequency that you are on, it can be very problematic. The greatest karmic transfer occurs in having sex with someone.

Human beings are confused, deluded and generally un-awakened. So as a person who seeks to increase their energy, you have to be very careful about who you have intimate contact with.

The first sexual experience is a significant imprinting of attention.

Women tend to open themselves up more during sex. Because their subtle physical bodies are so much more sensitive they tend to pick up the total energy of the man they have sex with.

Many men have deep rooted problems regarding the status of women, and during sex these problems come out. They consciously or unconsciously project anger and hate towards women they have sex with. This energy enters a woman’s subtle physical body and damages it.

It is most critical for a woman, or for a man who is very sensitive and opens up his heart, to be very selective about the people they have sex with.

I think I’ve learned more from women than anyone else, and perhaps from love -- what a wonderful testing ground, what a wonderful place to see and sense our limitations, to know that the pain reflects your state of awareness and not being able to hide from it.

Reciprocity, a symbiotic relationship, is a relationship in which two people have worked out certain terms. I am using you in certain ways; you are using me in certain ways. That is a balanced relationship.

An imbalanced association is when one or both parties become abusive and takes unfair advantage, tries to block another's enlightenment or success.

Let us say that you wanted a romantic partner who is in a higher sate of mind, a nicer person. The reason you will meet that person is because you are in a state of mind that will cause that meeting to occur.

You see two people together. They're in a relationship. It’s really power that holds those people together. And when the designs of power change, those people will separate and there's nothing they can do in the meantime about it.

In the classical spiritual definition, a soul mate is someone that you have reincarnated with many times. You find each other in many lifetimes.

You and I might define a ‘soul mate' differently. For most people, a soul mate has some kind of sexual connotation. But in the classical spiritual definition, a soul mate is someone that you have reincarnated with many times.

A soul mate is not necessarily someone with whom you set up housekeeping. Your soul and their soul have a multi incarnation attraction.

We play in the jungle gym of sexuality until our spirit takes us out into a clear field where we can see the stars, the ten thousand radiances of enlightenment. One of those radiances is the dance of sexuality."

- Zen Master Rama, Dr. Frederick Lenz
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